double standards #1
Here I am writing these series of posts that I’m not sure I should write it down .. but it’s the truth and it has to go out to the public .. I know that the readers are either going to love what I’m going to write , or they are going to hate me for exposing what they are doing and they think it’s the right thing to do .. I have been living here in Saudi Arabia for 25 years , my beautiful country , I love it , and I got used to the situation here .. but there are some wrong concepts going around that really annoys me and I need to let it out ..
double standards … mmm… double ? so it’s people just living two different lives .. being two persons in one .. and most of these personalities develop after they are raised in the typical saudi traditional way .. where they think everything is wrong .. a girl exposing her face , wow she’s a sinner!! .. a girl who’s not wearing a scarf because she’s not committed to hijab , that’s a bigger sinner too !!.. a girl talking to a guy , damn she’s going to hell !!.. the only contact they get with a girl is through the phone after he chases her so she can take his phone number , and after she calls him , she’s in the black list of the bad girls .. that’s extremists .. and alot of people are raised in that way ..throughout their childhood and their teenage years .. They grow up one day .. and need to continue their education abroad ..and voila !! At first ,they get cultural shock from the new society they have to deal with .. they start looking at a different world .. different people .. more open society .. Where there’s no red lines and restrictions .. Where you have the freedom to do whatever you want .. where everyone talks to everyone .. people are talking easily and laughing with strangers which is very weird for their upbringing .. talking to a strange girl without anyone judging them , or being afraid of what would she think if I talked to her , or is it socially acceptable? .. they start loving the attention of girls , enjoying their company , which they never tried in their life back in saudi .. and a normal male to female attraction may develop .. so they start loving this new kind of life .. Some may go to the extreme , and the others may just collect as many female friends as possible .. Just to enjoy their time while they are there .. They don’t know how does this male/female friendship goes .. So they get mixed up and there’s always consequences and complications with Saudi people pretending to be FRIENDS!! .. Either the girl or the guy ruin the friendship by developing feelings and start asking for more .. I have met some girls who don’t believe in male / female friendship , she believes it doesn’t exist , they have to end up married eventually or they end it up for good and not contact each other anymore .. Another example , a friend of a friend once was saying ” there’s nothing as pure friendship between a guy and a girl here in Saudi Arabia , there’s always attraction no matter how much they resist it” ..
My next question is ” Is an American / british / australian …. Etc .. female friend different than a Saudi female friend??” of course !!!
I’m not yet done that’s just my first post explaining how did it all start !!
Well said hun the friends zone is a bit tricky n in Saudi ya its more complicated due to the traditions bas we got to deal with it n make our own rulz regarding this.. Am waiting for part 2
Hey .. Long time no see
… Ur better than that
How r u doing ?
Will what u wrote there is correct and incorrect at the same time .. Correct part being the majority actually .. I donno about what it facing or what it dealing with daily what made u go all out to talk about that thing now after all that time .. But I gotta say : ppl are starting to get the idea and realize that our society is not the only society in the world (actually am one of them xD) .. Ppl in my generation and the next they are much much and much better than the last 2 or 3 generations past … Try to concentrate on what I said and u’ll notice it’s true.
Oh , and don’t let the few bad thoughts get the best of u
heey abdulgader .. well i’m just talking about a certain type of guys who are judgmental .. and they are living a double standards kinda life .. and unfortunately they exist in our society .. so it’s not generalized !!